Workshop on improving interpersonal relationships.

BahaÕi Center. Springfield, IL. Session 1 (December 2, 2007)

In this workshop weÕll be exploring some words from the BahaÕi Faith and comparing concepts from BahaÕi teachings to some of the findings and principles from the fields of psychology and sociology currently supported by the latest research.

To begin, here are a list of concepts weÕll explore. Before we start investigating what these mean and what we can learn by applying these, take a few moments to explore what you already think about these concepts:

From Psychology and Sociology

From BahaÕi

Harsh startups

Conflict escalation versus de-escalation or defusing.

A difference between complaints and criticisms.

Contempt (sarcasm, cynicism, mockery, hostile humor, sneering, name-calling, etc.)

Defensiveness, shifting blame.

Avoidance coping.

Stonewalling, disengaging, estrangement.

Love as a motivational drive.

Social cohesion.

Social Capital (bridging and bonding).

Intimacy.

Differentiation.

Us-versus-them group identity.

Confirmation bias.

Exercise mildness and forbearance and calm

Their agitation was turned into peace, their doubt into certitude

each must use perfect liberty in stating his views and unveiling the proof of his demonstration.

Should any taunt and mock at you, meet him with love.

Òoffer them milk and honey in returnÓ

Spirit of frank and loving consultation.

Consultation, frank and unfettered, is the bedrock of this unique order.

To be in love and charity with all men

All souls become as one soul, and all hearts as one heart.

two souls that are closely attached in heart.

no remnant of either love or hate may linger therein

Show to alien souls the same loving kindness ye bestow upon your faithful friends.

be detached from all that is in heaven and on earth.

Principles of BahaÕi Faith that are most relevant to interpersonal relationships:

Consultation.

Unity.

Love.

Removal of prejudice.

Humility.